Letting Go of Negativity & How to Motivate Yourself!

It’s February and of course, it’s cold, miserable and bitter outside and this is usually the month (along with December and January) where you just do not have any motivation for practically anything.

For me, it’s usually anything that involves getting into my car. There is nothing worse than climbing into a cold car that takes a ridiculous amount of time to heat up, so if I have to drive anywhere (gym, usually) then I’d just rather not – serious lack of motivation. So thinking back to the last few days of doing very little I realised I needed to get myself together and just do what I need/want to do without convincing myself that it would be far easier if I just stayed sat with my bum firmly plonked on the sofa with a blanket, cup of tea and something on Netflix.

So… These are my tips to help you (and me) continue to focus on whatever goal we might have and to help motivate us to get up and achieve that goal!



1 – Your Mind!

The worst thing is convincing yourself not to do something because you tell yourself “you’re not good enough”. Negative thoughts massively influence you and make you feel like you can’t do something, or shouldn’t even bother. Always try to think positively. It’s not easy sometimes but try to take a step back and look at the comforts around you and allow those small things to influence you in a positive way.

2 – Avoid Negative People!

There’s nothing worse than being surrounded by people who are always negative people, and just like thoughts, negative people influence you a lot. Surrounding yourself with people who are always negative about things are a waste of your precious time. The last thing you want is to let someone who is hateful and bitter about things stop you from doing something by bringing you down.

3 – Love Your Body!

Your body is sacred so don’t abuse it. Drink lots of water, eat lots of nutritious foods (of course you can snack on cakes and crisps and whatever) but moderation is key. Stay healthy, exercise (force yourself) and get enough sleep.

4 – Expand That Horizon!

Try something new every day. Maybe take a different route to work, or buy a coffee from a little independent coffee shop. It doesn’t have to be a huge change to your day and can be as simple as what I just mentioned but changing the mundane and normal and adding a bit of ‘difference’ will help you to see new things, potentially meet new people and see new sights.

5 – Perfection Doesn’t Exist!

Nothing is perfect and nothing ever will be so don’t beat yourself up about perfectionism. Achieve your goals in your own time and if they make you happy and they make you smile then that’s all you’ll ever need.

6 – If You’re Single, Stop Comparing Yourself to Friends In Couples!

You are still a whole person whether you are in a relationship, single or married. Please stop comparing yourself to other people. You really can’t look for anyone else to complete you and you should see a partner as someone who you allow to share in your life, not BE your life. Please don’t let being single convince you that you aren’t good enough – you REALLY do not need to be in a relationship to be happy or to define you.

7 – Mistakes Happen, Learn From Them!

So what? You made a mistake – don’t waste days feeling miserable about it. Grab a drink, make some lunch and learn from what went wrong and if you want to try again with the same thing – then don’t do the same thing twice. Mistakes and failures happen and they are simply part and parcel of your life and your journey. When one door closes, another one opens – simply learn from it and move on.

8 – Hang Around With Motivated People!

If you gym a lot, join a class that has a few regulars and join in. You might find you have lots in common with these new faces that inspire you to keep up and motivate you to carry on. People who are motivated are great at helping pass on energy (without even knowing they have).

9 – Put Your Best Clothes On!

There is nothing worse than feeling slumpy in your PJ’s to dissolve all elements of motivation. Put your best clothes on, your best face on and spend some time pampering yourself and before you know it you’ll be face-to-face with someone with sass and that’s the person who will get things done.

10 – Stop Dwelling!

Constantly thinking about the past can be really limiting if you’re constantly lingering in the past. Instead, use it to be constructive in helping you for the future. Try to stay present and think of things that help improve you, not set you back.

11 – Are You Really Too Busy?

Whenever we’re asked to do something, it seems to be the most common excuse… “I’m too busy” or “I don’t have the time” but is that really true? Probably not… We instead make those excuses but what we really mean is that we do have time but it means giving something else up in order to do it. Try not to blame your schedule or other things going on and try to make time for other things.

12 – Light a Candle!

Simple but totally effective. Light a candle (or a few) and enjoy calmness. Candles for me really help put me into a great calm mood and really prepare me for the next day.

13 – Music!

Music (Kisstory for me) gets me going. It makes me feel energised when I’m feeling a bit down and it helps me to get up and ready. I love nothing more than putting on some classic tunes to up my motivation so put some music on and get your day started!

What are your top tips for keeping motivated and letting go of negativity? 




    • February 12, 2018 / 8:46 am

      Thank you Nora!! Such a lovely thing to read, I really appreciate your comment and glad you found my post helpful. Xx

  1. Shannon
    February 16, 2018 / 4:31 pm

    I definitely know what you mean about not wanting to go outside to do anything because it’s just too cold! It was 3 degrees Fahrenheit and it made me want to do anything other than the things I have to get done today. Fingers crossed spring comes early! In the meantime I’ll definitely be practicing some of these tips.

    Shann Eileen |

    • February 20, 2018 / 10:12 am

      Thank you Shannon, it’s one of those things isn’t it? We know we have things to do but we just can’t seem to find the motivation. Hopefully we will get better knowing that Spring is on its way (finally)!! X

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