January is the month where we think of the goals we want to achieve for the year. Looking back, I’ve had a pretty amazing year but I have felt in all of that time that I still have a lot to ‘do’, a lot to ‘feel’ and a lot to ‘make’ of myself.
I have a big problem with success and what success means. Basically, for me – I’m never really content with everything career wise and I always want to better myself but this can sometimes mean I put myself down or I tell myself I haven’t ‘achieved’ anything.
I wrote out recently all of the things I had achieved in 2017 and these were: I produced two films, both of which are multi-award winning, I bought a house with my lovely boyfriend, I went on holiday to Vegas with my best friends, I went to Copenhagen with Mark and many lovely little weekends away. I am due to become an auntie in literally two weeks (or less) and I got to witness so many of my very very closest friends get married and be a part of their day and realised after writing this that I had achieved actually quite a lot but it is so weird that we still put ourselves on a pedestal.
So below are a list of achievable goals so when I am lacking in motivation, or if anyone else needs some motivation – then these goals can help get us on track!
- Walk and just ‘see’. All too often it’s far easier to just sit around all day and watch TV and not even think about the world outside. I love walking and last year I went to so many lovely places on walks that Mark and I have an entire Google Drive full of photos from our adventures. Just walking and spending time outside I feel gives you a fresh sense of purpose.
- Bake more. I spend HOURS looking at recipes on Pinterest and Instagram dribbling over beautiful cakes, pies and buns and then I put my phone/laptop away. I love baking and want to make more of an effort to get in that kitchen and make delicious goodies or laugh at my failed baking (I once made a quiche where the egg leaked out and created a pan omelette).
- Buy more flowers for the house. I love flowers, I love colour and I love the fresh smell they provide. They’re so pretty, they’re instant happiness, and they make me smile the minute I walk in to the house so why are they not there all the time?!
- Actually finish a book! I have stop and started so many books that I’ve forgotten what one I was reading last. I love getting lost in a book, in a new life, in someone else’s fiction and story and it brings me so much enjoyment. I guess it’s just so easy to go home and put the TV on that we forget about the hours of enjoyment we can have from reading.
- Get properly back in to the Gym. I love love love the gym and I made great progress in 2017. I developed abs (say whaaaa) and my thighs started to get a bit bigger from the ridiculous amount of squats I was doing (squats all the way folks) and I started protein shakes and all kinds of things but occasionally I’d slip into bad habits and put off the gym because it’s raining, or it’s the school-run so the roads will be busy, or there’s something on TV I want to watch… The gym is a great way to get out the house, try something new, feel better about yourself and see changes in your body, your personality and your eating habits.
- Don’t put yourself down. I am a bit of a stickler on myself. I’m constantly comparing myself to others that I forget that I am fine with just being me. Don’t fret if you haven’t achieved what you want one month – just try again. I hate giving up and if something doesn’t go my way – I can occasionally make myself feel like a bit of a failure but I just have to remind myself of the things I have achieved and once I’ve done that – I take the good with the bad and move on. Life is too short for feeling bad. Just brush it off and get back to seeing the good.
- Don’t feel bad for nights in. I LOVE my PJs, a good film and a takeaway. Don’t feel bad about these things. If you don’t want to go out, then stay in. If you don’t want to cook, then don’t. Relax and have time for yourself. Just because you don’t fancy going out to the pub for a few drinks doesn’t make you a bad friend or that you’re lazy – just be honest and say nope. You’re having a ‘me’ evening!
- Call friends more. UGH… I spend too much time messaging on WhatsApp I could so easily just call my friends to chat to them more?!?! I have no idea why I don’t but this is definitely something I want to change this year. I’d far rather hear their voices then the occasional back and forth message via an app. If you haven’t called your BFF for a while then give them a bell. Take 10 minutes out of your day and give them a bell for a catch up.
Aaaanyway, these are my goals for this year. They’re simple really. They are easy to achieve, they don’t put too much pressure on yourself and they remind you of how important the little things are.
If you have any goals you want to achieve, I’d love to hear about them???